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What is Self-defence

Damien Heim • Feb 15, 2022

Answers to questions I am frequently asked about self-defence

Defence Mind Set

As a self-defence training coach, former Close Protection Officer and Bodyguard having a self-defence mindset is part and parcel of daily life. However, this cant be said for people outside of the security or risk management industry.  Having a self-defence mindset and some principles to follow is quite simple and if followed will keep you out of 90% of the trouble you may find yourself in….


"Don't do stupid things, with stupid people, in stupid places!"


I think this saying speaks for itself and relates to younger individuals - myself included in my adventuring youth and some of the situations I found myself in with friends normally on nights out.


When it comes to threats realistically from a bodyguard's point of view, you have two options - this is true from most physical engagements.


Option One

Remove yourself or your client (bodyguard) from the threat if possible.

This coincides with the way the law looks at violence or conflict if you can leave or escape you should!


Option Two

Neutralise the threat!

Obviously from a self-defence point of view within the UK, this may have some consequences attached to it that I will try to explain later. As a trainer and security consultant, the next "thought" I have found with the defence mindset is unfortunately the most common and most dangerous (in my personal opinion)


"IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN TO ME"


For myself, I wish nothing will ever happen to anyone, that everyone has a long, safe lifestyle but unfortunately that has not been the world I live in and when looking back over human history, I doubt it will change for some time yet so what can we do about this…..


On Fighting

As I mentioned when addressing the above question, another question I get asked a lot is what style (martial Arts) is best for self-defence. Personally, I think all styles have something to offer but the most important thing for me is, "do they give you the following four things?"


Enjoyment

Whether you are training in boxing, Thai boxing (strike based) styles or Jujitsu / Judo (grappling) both have their pros and cons within the combat style itself. For me this has to be decided by the individual, do they enjoy the Club/style/trainer. If you do not enjoy the training you will never be consistent in your training or develop any level of competency in it or be able to apply it to a street self-defence context.


Confidence

When training in whatever style you choose you should start to develop improved levels of confidence. As your confidence grows, your gait will change (the way you walk and hold yourself) this should deter opportunist attackers and in the event that you do end up in a conflict situation, you will have some level of combat experience to defend yourself.

 

Fitness

In my opinion, this goes without saying and anyone that has a level of fighting experience in sport or street defence. You need a level of fitness to escape (run away and extract) to defend yourself (Neutralise the threat), so improving your fitness levels is key!


Context

We have to remember unlike a fair competition fight, where weight, skill (belt level or experience) and your fight record come into play; self-defence falls outside of that. You will more than likely be defending yourself against an unknown opponent, with an unknown skill level, at an unknown time and location. The number of opponents you may be facing may also vary as well as the weapons an opponent may have brought into play. These are all things to consider when choosing a style and starting your training if self-defence is your goal.

 

Summary

In my opinion, any form of martial arts training is better than nothing at all. Whatever style you decide on whether it's strike based or grappling, soft or hard styles, through your training you should develop a level of:


1.      Self-Discipline

2.      Martial Skill

3.      Fitness

4.      Self Confidence

5.      And a community 


The 5 assets listed above will aid in the basics of self-defence but remember the reason why you started to train in the first place!


In the words of the late Bruce Lee "take what is useful and get rid of what is not".



Being able to do this, however, will depend on your experience and understanding of the style in which you choose to train and the trainer you choose

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